And one of my favorite hot things is thinking about the delicious interplay that takes place between a dominant and their submissive. Power play offers a kinky world of possibilities. We imagine, direct, and shape our sessions together, drawing on our fantasies as inspiration. Over time, each encounter becomes more thrilling than the last due to the endless possibilities a rapport fosters.
Submission can range from the playful act of following your partner’s lead in the bedroom, where you surrender control and let them take you on a wild, pleasure-filled ride, to an intricate yet electrifying power exchange relationship, where the dynamic between dominant and submissive crackles with intensity, making every nerve in your body come alive.
I don’t think it’s necessary to analyse the desire to be dominated or to dominate. Insisting that there must be a long, detailed sexual awakening origin story deep in our psyche which explains why Peter likes X and Jane likes Y is a little tiresome. How about we simply get off on it, and that’s that?
But here’s one thing I won’t compromise on: that satisfaction is all about embracing what mutually resonates with you and your partner. It’s creating that safe space—where desires align, real life melts away, and fantasies come to life.
Imagine yourself surrendering control to a captivating, beautiful mistress or stern dominant, unleashing the untamed desires within you, and letting them else take the reins and direct your pleasure. Every command said or whispered, gentle (or not so gentle) touch and turn leaves you breathless and craving more.
Tempting, isn’t it?
Submission isn’t about being weak or powerless. It’s about tapping into a river of erotic power that’s been lying dormant within you. Think of it as CBT (not THAT one) but with a kinky twist. But just because someone identifies as a submissive doesn’t mean the dominant is your personal sexy-as-hell genie, granting your every naughty wish. As a submissive man, it’s important to recognise that a mistress or dominant is not obliged to fulfill every delight or desire you may have. They too have boundaries, preferences, and limits that deserve just as much respect and consideration. Just as the submissive opens themselves up to vulnerability, so does the dominant.
In my perfect sexual world, power play is a consensual exchange of power, rooted in communication and mutual understanding. It can’t be a sexual fantasy free-for-all in the favor of one party. My unpopular opinion, to be shared in great detail along with real-world examples, in my last-ever blog, is that all submissives are actually the dominant. Sue me.